On Forgiveness and Food Reinforcers use with Autism

I've decided to combine two topics that I consider extremely important because in this case I personally can't seperate the two. I'd like to share my experience with food reinforcers and forgiveness. Forgiveness is not just something we need to give to other people. Sometimes forgiveness is something we need to give to ourselves. My number one rule when making decisions about autism is, "Make the best decision you can with the information you have at the time and never look back". I have found this rule to serve me well and be fairly easy to follow except when I discuss food reinforcers. Food reinforcers is the practice of using food, usually candy or high carbohydrate treats, to encourage someone to repeat a behavior. My middle son's education team used these reinforcers, in particular, gummmy bears, during his second grade school year. It seemed to be just the ticket! This was done with my complete blessing. He made wonderful progress and many of those students that assisted with this progress are still great encouragers for him today through social media, eighteen years later. He really turned a curve that year on his progress. All the later progress he has made has really been due to the hard work and dedication of the educational team and fellow students that worked with him that year.

Unfortunately, his yearly pediatric exam didn't happen until the end of that school year. At that time the pediatrician told me he had some major dental problems. This was a complete surprise since neither my husband or I have ever had a cavity and because we made sure our children brushed their teeth daily. Dental decay was not even on our radar. After a trip to the dentist, we found out he need $20,000 worth of dental work, which insurance would not cover. I was cautioned that his dental work could not be delayed as it was severe enough the infection would likely go to his heart if not done immediately. Every tooth in his mouth had either three or more cavities or was more than 50% decayed. My husband was slated to be laid off at the end of the month.

At this point the Mom guilt was pretty severe. How could I have not known this? Why did I authorize use of food reinforcers? His teachers were definitely not to blame. It was my responsibility to make sure the programs I authorized were appropriate. I had a truly hard time forgiving myself for a very long time, but if you hold onto the guilt then you can't allow for future growth. I had to let go of the guilt to be truly effective in making good decisions in the future. This was truly the a huge hurdle for me to overcome.

The problems with food reinforcers did not end with just switching his reinforcers. This was a major ordeal. The dentist absolutely refused to do the work in his office. He called the insurance company and told them that if he did this in the office they would then need to pay for counseling for himself (the dentist), myself (the mom), and my son (the patient). They would not budge. The work was done in the hospital, but we had to access of program for special needs children.

Now things became worse, I took him to the hospital to meet with the child life specialist, who helped prepare children for their hospital stay. She assured me that even though he would not have anything to do with her session everything would be fine. She said, they all drink the "giggle juice". After they drink the "giggle juice" they relax and everything is fine. This did not turn out to be true. He did not willing drink their "giggle juice" nor did he willing allow the antistetic. Since he was fighting them it took three antistetics. At this point, his heart stopped. After he was revived. The dental work was done.

Although this may seem to be an unusual case, I don't believe it is. I believe that most children who have autism are likely to fight in this situation. The problem wasn't a reaction to the antistetic. It was that he fought them. He did not have the necessary skills to understand what was expected of him or to actively participate by allowing the doctors to administer the antistetic. To me the solution here seems clear, the way to prevent this scenerio is to use other reinforcers. Children with autism frequently respond well to other things. In my son's case, we switched to hand stamps. He sometimes had stamps all the way up his arm by the time he came home at the end of the day, but it was just as effective.

While this may seem to be the end of the story, it is not. Every few years, he has needed major dental work due to some of the original work failing to be effective anymore, but the most difficult part has been the emotional toll. My son is having his wisdom teeth removed this week. He is truly scared. You see he remembers the whole incident up until his heart stopped. When we took him to the dentist to arrange the the removal, he was shaking and scared. They called me in to help calm him down. At one point, he burst out, "I'm having nightmares about people holding me down and putting a gas mask on me." Immediately, the doctor assured him that he did not use a gas mask. My son calmed some. He told the doctor our preacher had told him sometimes they gave people a pill if they were nervous. The doctor immediately prescribed a pill, which my son frequently checks to make sure I still have.

When you are making decisions you will make some mistakes. It's important to not only forgive those you may feel have faulted you, but more importantly yourself. If you don't let go of that guilt, your guilt can paralyze you ability to be effective or to deal with future consequences of the original decision. When those mistakes include authorizing a practice that can be harmful I feel it's important to share your experience with others, so they can learn from our mistakes

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Parents of adult children with disabilities need more guidance

Every time I think I've got this "autism mom" thing down I find there is something else I need to learn. Our latest challenge is insurance. Even though I work for a company that allows you to keep your disabled children on your insurance there is more to it that just signing up for the insurance. Twice recently we have received letters basically tell us one or both of the boys have been dumped from the insurance. This actually has nothing to do with my employer, but the insurance company themselves. Once this was initiated by a birthday then the next time due to the insurance company doing an internal audit. Like I already aluded this is not a nefarious attempt on my employers part to reduce costs. You see, I work for MHMR. There are a lot of employees, who also have children who have a disability. MHMR is implementing a system to try to avoid this happening again in the future, but at the moment one of the boys is still without private insurance. He does have medicaid, but since we have never used his medicaid he has never been established at a doctor's office that accepts it.

So this has me thinking what else is in our future that we don't know about? I've already become aware of programs that have waiting list years long. We should have put them on the waiting lists when they were little, but we didn't know these programs existed. My goal for the next year is to put together a list of resources parents of children who will disabled into adulthood should be accessing and a "to do" list of things the families should be doing to make sure their adult children have everything they need if their parent becomes unable to take care of them even for a short time. Please send anything you would like added to this list to sharon_rd@att.net.

An Insightful Response from a Student

I wanted to share a response I received when I posted a question on Facebook. My question was what do Dietitians want to know about autism. When I received her response my immediate reaction was, she gets it! It's always exciting to me to meet someone who truly has made an effort and has develop an understanding of the challenges families with autism need to conquer. So with Sarah's permission, I hope you enjoy Sarah's response to me.

I noticed your status. I'd like to share a bit of my own tumultuous experience with you. Maybe it will help you know what kind of information would be useful to somebody who is expected to help a family but has no experience with autism...yet.

Nobody ever explained autism to me, I learned from experience when I was 14 or 15 years old. I'll never forget all the questions I had my first time volunteering for "Structured Athletics for Challenged Children." We were responsible for watching and feeding the kids as part of a health & fitness day camp program. I continued to volunteer for two years. I helped out with weekly events, summer camps, and a spring break day program. I grew to love those kids. I think about them almost every day.

What do dietitians need to know? They need to know that autism is not black and white; it is a spectrum. They also need to know that there is no one, objective algorithm of care for all autism cases. If you feel lost and like you have to feel your way around, then you're probably doing it right!

NCP (ADIME based on my limited experience with autism):

A-ssessment cannot be overemphasized here!
D-iagnoses will vary.
I-ntervention will involve much trial and error.
M-onitoring will require collaboration.
E-valuation will rely on high quality communication.

And the following:

1. Children: I had never even heard of autism until I found myself holding the hand of an autistic child and being told "he has autism - whatever happens, don't let go!". I said terrified, "what's autism?!!!!" The children I worked with never used words, so how could I adequately describe them using any? They chose to simply "show" me everything. A video would be a good way to really illustrate what autism is. I don't think it can be adequately appreciated without being seen in action.

2. Parents:

a) My oh my was there so much nutrition related superstition! I watched mothers argue vehemently about sugar, artificial sweeteners, random vegetables, and even water, referencing websites, magazine articles, and popular diet books. It was scary and overwhelming to listen to them argue.

b) Working with these parents is different from working with most parents. Drop expectations of what a normal family life is! Make no assumptions. On my first day I asked one of the mothers why she didn't work full time and she looked at me like I was crazy. After watching her son for a few more days, I totally understood why.

c) At first I thought that the parents were "high strung" and "paranoid" but after my first week I 100% understood where they were coming from. ***It is important to make sure that RDs are informed ahead of time about what the parents are going through. Otherwise the dietitian's first impression will be "these parents are CRAZY!!!" and perhaps even blame the child's difficulties on them.***

3. Eating:

a) I found that a huge issue was getting them to stay seated and focused on eating. It was not atypical for a child to be midway through a sandwich, really enjoying it, and then JUMP UP and RUN OFF excited about something totally random and completely unrelated! All we could do was laugh and try again.

b) It was a real struggle to get them to eat without feeling like I was force feeding them. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt confused about how to proceed when you know a child NEEDS food and IS hungry but just can't focus enough to finish chewing something.

c) Letting them go without eating enough meant dealing with more grumpy and violent behavior later on. Keeping them well fed seemed to keep them happy, even if they didn't seem that interested in food.

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Despite the inability to communicate with them in any conventional manner, I found that the children with autism were very, very deep thinkers and feelers. I noticed patterns in their hand gripping and in the movements and sounds they made. Each child had their own interests and own way of telling me things. By letting THEM lead ME as often as possible, we had many of what I like to call "nonverbal adventures" and "silent exchanges."

Unfortunately, I think that most people lack the empathy and/or patience to accept these children for who and how they are. All they see is a child who doesn't respond, a child who must be "stupid." They don't realize the vast amount of processing that is going on inside this type of mind, and the high level of sensitivity, and the potential for painful over-stimulation.

Of course there was lots of drama no matter how much experience I had with any individual child with autism. I thought that all of the issues we encountered meant that I was doing a terrible job. But the parents explained to me that if nobody had a nervous breakdown and the kid wasn't injured or lost, then it's been a great day! And that caring for a child with autism - or even just feeding them - means letting go of all preconceived notions of what constitutes success and learning to roll with the punches!

Sorry for the length!

Sarah Ruth Hoffman

Frustrations of trying to stay on track

I freely admit that I give myself permission to splurge on my diet once in a while. I always make sure that that splurge does not include excessive carbohydrates since I do have diabetes. One of my spurges is an occassional hamburger; however, I do know that if I eat a hamburger and french fries my blood sugar will suffer. I, therefore, will order my hamburger either alone, with a yogurt, or if I go to Sonic with a small $1 tator tot.

Now I am highly motivated to control my blood sugar, so I'm persistent when I make my order, but here is how the conversation usually goes. Me: I'd like a cheeseburger, $1 tator tots, and a Diet Coke. Sonic employee: Can we make that a #1 for you so we can give you a discount? Me: no, thanks Sonic: but mam it's cheaper. Me: yes, I know, no thanks. Sonic: but mam, it's $1.50 cheaper. Me: yes, I know, no thanks. Silence.... Sonic: Okay that's a cheeseburger, large tator tot and a diet coke. Me: NO, I do not want the large tator tots I want the one dollar tots. Long silence....... okay your total is $....

So as I encourage people to order the appropriate size to not overeat I know you have to be really motivated and sometimes beligerent to get the size you want. I understand that everywhere you go they will ask you if you want to upsize, but isn't there a point where this becomes harrassment instead of customer service?

How does that benefit?

One of my favorite Scouters had a huge influence on my life and how I evaluate the effectiveness of everything I do. Mike was more than willing to volunteer to help, but Mike couldn’t be out in the heat very long. You see he had a heart problem. I can’t tell you the details other than he had congestive heart failure because Mike pretty much refused to talk about it. He did not want sympathy. This landed Mike in the position of Business Manager for most of the day camps I ran. He sat in the air conditioning and handled paperwork that needed to be done and was the go to person if someone needed to find me for something. I kept him informed about where I would be at all times, but Mike’s role was much more than keeping up with that paperwork and keeping track of that Director, who did not want to stay in one spot! Mike was my sounding board.
This started off with me calling him about which the tedious details (i.e. Which kid was going into which Den, which leader to put with each den, and schedule changes). When I called I was always excited about all the cool stuff that was happening. As I would rattle off, Mike, we are going to be having the coolest hats you’ve ever seen, the t-shirts are the best design we have ever had, we are going to do this craft that is just so awesome, and this year we are going to take apart owl pellets to figure out what the owl had been eating! At some point, Mike would get quiet and he’d simply say, so Sharon, how does this benefit the boys? At that point, he’d make me go back through my list of way cool stuff and explain to him how each and every item benefited the boys.
Mike worked many an event with me and it became my habit to call when planning any event even if he wasn’t going to be there. As he made me go back through item by item and explain “how does this benefit the boys” I became much more confident about the quality of the program. If I couldn’t come up with a benefit that activity didn’t happen. When the family, scouts, and scouters came to me to thank me I always silently thanked Mike.
Today as I see babies, who are on lasix, I still silently thank Mike. You see, Mike was one of the subjects of the original lasix trials. Lasix is a medication that helps decrease the fluid around the heart and lungs. Mike succumbed to his heart condition several years ago, but I imagine him looking at the doctor and saying, but how will this help others. They weren’t giving him much of a chance for a long life. He knew he would probably die young, but he along with prolonging his own life he wanted to help others. I doubt he had a concept of just how much benefit he really would have for others when he started that trial.
Over the years, I have used his question to me as a measure of how well I’m doing my job whether it’s planning a scout activity, taking care of a failure to thrive baby or advising a family with autism. I haven’t done my job properly if I can’t answer this question. How have you benefited someone today?

I’m Finally Climbing OFF the Fence

For a very long time friends, co-workers, acquaintances and parents of my clients have wanted to know my opinion on whether or not they should vaccinate their children or not, especially for the MMR vaccine. For the most part my response has been that I was not comfortable telling someone to not get shots, but I didn’t see any harm on adjusting the schedule if that would make the family more comfortable. I’ve always made it clear that I do not in any way shape or fashion believe that any shot/vaccine caused my boys autism. They had signs of autism from the day they were born.
However, I was on the fence on whether mercury had anything to do with autism or not. This is a position very uncharacteristic for me, as I usually have an opinion. Like all parents who have children that have autism, I have read some of the books and articles that “explain” how mercury is the cause. So as people ask me about the mercury question I have retreated to the fence for several reasons. First, I grew up fishing in areas where the waters very near have higher than acceptable levels of mercury. We didn’t just fish [my family] went wade fishing (i.e. walking in the water while you fish), so the question in my mind was, is it possible that that my body had excessive exposure and that was the cause? In addition, mercury was probably present in my life more that many women my age. My father was a machinist. Machinist got cuts at work. It’s just something that happened. When he got a cut the infirmary sent him home with “black salve”, so when anyone in the house had any injury, especially a cut, we used the leftover black salve. As I learned mercury was an ingredient I wondered did my horrible clumsiness as a child cause me to be exposed to too much mercury through black salve. Also, for some reason, which I honestly don’t know, my family seemed to always have mercury to play with, which they did with bare hands. Added to this I know my husband also “played” with mercury as a kid. He remembers reading in Boy’s Life magazine how to clean pennies with mercury, which of course he had to try out. So as you can see I did have some exposure to mercury along the way. This in turn placed some doubt in my mind.
I had read enough about what the parents believe to know what was being taught in autism circles, but what about the scientific evidence? I kept hearing there was sixteen studies that proved vaccines had nothing to do with autism, where were they? I couldn’t find a list anywhere. The Today show ran a segment about it, but when I emailed and asked them to please send me the list of the studies, I got nothing. So I stayed firmly on the fence wondering how to resolve this issue in my mind…. Until the last couple of months.
As I do a lot, I bought several books from Amazon on autism, but this time I found one book that offered the other side of the autism controversy. I want to encourage anyone that gets that same question I get “what about the shots, do you think they cause autism” to read this book. It’s time for us to get the word out. Unequivocally, no, it does not. Please read: Autism’s False Prophets. It is time for the science to take a front seat. Yes, there are sixteen studies. Some of the studies are on autism and mercury and some on autism and MMR. Also available are the proceedings that removed Andrew Wakefield’s right to practice in England. It’s an interesting read. Page after page lists elements of Dr Wakefield’s study that did not have IRB approval, which in my opinion makes it null and void. After reading much of this document I must take the book by Paul Offitt, MD at face value simply because what he says matches what I have already read from those proceedings.
In the interesting keeping this short enough to read let me just list some things I found interesting:
• Dr Wakefield applied for a patent for a “safer measles vaccine” before he came out with his famous study then stated measles, mumps, and rubella should be given separately.
• When Dr Wakefield said he thought everyone should be vaccinated separately there were no individual vaccines available for measles, mumps, and rubella in his country
• Of the sixteen studies, none of them get 100% for study quality; however, Dr Wakefield’s study got 0%
• Many of those that have taken a stand and said vaccines are safe have been threatened
• Dr Wakefield accepted A LOT of money from the lawyer that was in charge of suing in regards to the MMR vaccine in England
• Five of the children in Dr Wakefield’s study were involved in that lawsuit before they were admitted to his study. This is clearly a conflict of interest.
• Many years ago, Thimerosal was shown to be safe in larger does than was present in any vaccine.
• Autism rates did not drop after thimerosal was removed from vaccines in California by law
• The viral load that several have stated was too much is actually much lower than it was when many of us were taking the polio vaccine
• Many of those involved in this controversy are associated with the law firms that are suing the government.
• One last point, during the trials, one of the scientists was asked to point blank deny that vaccines cause autism, but that is not how null hypothesis in research work. No matter how much you test the null hypothesis you can only say it is unlikely. Many have interpreted this to mean that even the scientist have doubts about the vaccines.
The most disappointing thing I discovered was how little the science has been discussed therefore only fueling the fires of this controversy by remaining silent. Let me encourage you that if you have the opportunity to talk to these families, please educate yourself on the scientific side of this subject.

Supplement Use with the Disabled Individual

Families that have a member with a disability are looking for answers. They want to know what they can do to help this person they love. Most of them want to do this as naturally as possible without using a host of possible chemicals. It seems logical that if something went wrong with natural processes of conception or gestation to create this disability then something natural should be able to cure the problem or at least make it better, so they look at the possibility of supplements.

There is a wealth of information available through many sources. Some of those sources are anecdotal and some are peer reviewed. Anecdotal sources are those sources where results have been reported by the person taking the supplement or by the family members of the person taking the supplement. Peer-reviewed sources are those sources where researchers have followed scientific method, they’ve obtain approval to pursue this research by a board or committee that insures that the rights of those being researched have been protected, they’ve done research in a methodical way, they’ve written their results then submitted the article to be reviewed by their peers. This insures that any research from these sources has followed guidelines and generally, that nobody should be hurt from following the recommendations they make.

Families and individuals with disabilities have felt forsaken by the researchers. The research takes years that they frankly don’t have to give suggestions they needed years ago. For the researchers much of the underlying problem is money or lack of money. If the research will only benefit a few people then it’s extremely hard to get funds to undergo the research. In addition, research on many of the supplements will probably never be funded because there is no money to be made on the hind end of the study. Supplements like B6 or magnesium are available over the counter for a fairly cheap price. It’s problematic to convince someone to fund research if they will have no return after the study.

Families, who are affected by disabilities such as autism, started years ago, passing on information about supplements they had used then subsequently saw an improvement in their affected child. Other families were grateful. There was at least something they could try that wouldn’t break the bank. Scientists were skeptical. There are many problems with this approach from the scientific perspective. How did you measure improvement? What about the placebo effect? Could some of these supplements be harmful?

I once had the pleasure of talking directly to Bernard Rimland from the Autism Research Institute on the phone. He gave me some of the best advice I’ve ever received in that short 10 minute phone conversation. He encouraged me to make sure my children, who have autism, were really getting a benefit from the supplements I was using with them. His suggestion was simple. He said, “Tell nobody who doesn’t have to know.” This levels the playing field, so to speak. If the people around your child/person with disabilities are biased towards believing wholeheartedly the answer to all their problems is giving them a supplement, they will believe they see positive effects once they find out your child is on a supplement. If the person working with your child/person with disabilities believes that supplements are a waste of money then they not only are not going to see any progress they are going to see regression. If nobody knows, the parent is given the opportunity to come in later and ask open ended questions. For instance you’ve given your child a supplement that others have reported improve language then the parent can ask, “how do you think his language is lately?” This gives the person you’re asking the opportunity to give a more honest response.

As a parent, I used that method of determining how any alternative treatments I was using were affecting my boys. I found it interesting that anything that had the desired effects for one boy did not have the same effects for the other. You could literally draw a line down a piece of paper, write their names individually at the top then list the treatments with a benefit under each name. There was only one treatment that could be listed under both of their names.

I have many concerns about the many supplements that are being offered for individuals with disabilities. I’m concerned about the costs to the family and the possibility of toxicity. Some recommendations far exceed the tolerable upper limits set for those nutrients. Some nutrients don’t have a tolerable upper limit set, but that’s no guarantee. That may just mean that nobody has reached that upper limit or if they have then nobody realized the problem was caused by taking excessive amounts of a nutrient. The costs to the family can be financial. Some of the supplements are encouraging an intake that costs in excess of $200 per month. Usually, those companies encourage families to put everyone in the family on those supplement. Some of these companies are using very high pressure sales tactics. I’ve personally had people tell me, “If you aren’t doing “this” for your child then you aren’t doing everything humanly possible”. Of course, the underlying message is “bad parent, you aren’t doing enough for your child”. In addition, some of these companies have engaged in acquiring sponsors to pay for others supplements. This concerns me not only for the family that is going to use the supplement, but for the sponsor family as most of the sponsors I’ve been aware of are families that have recently had a tragic loss. I fear the supplement companies are taking advantage of the sponsor families and their current state of grief.

The costs to the family that concerns me the most is the social capital loss. Social capital is how connected you are to your family, friends, and community. It is your emotional safety net. Those around you get tired of the many treatments and gradually that may be their reason for disappearing from your life especially if the family has been recruited as a salesperson for the supplement company.

My advice to those who are considering using a supplement is to take Dr Rimland’s advice. If you are going to try a supplement, tell only those who need to know and then ask open-ended non-leading questions. If someone is giving you high pressure to buy a supplement then tell them you don’t feel you can make an informed choice under that kind of pressure. Watch closely for any signs of toxicity. Re-evaluate on a regular basis if this treatment is beneficial. Know the signs of toxicity for the nutrients you are taking. Finally, as you give yourself permission to start these supplements determine under what conditions you would be willing to stop.

Regularly, make an appointment with someone you trust. This can be a one of the professionals you deal or a friend. List to them all the pros and cons of your current treatment then ask them to honestly tell you what they hear you saying. Do they hear you saying you’re having some doubts? Do they hear you saying this has been a great benefit? Do they hear you saying this is having too much of a strain? Or do they hear you saying this is helping you get through the day?

Families have the right to try supplements or any treatment they feel will be beneficial. Many families have seen some good improvements using these supplements, including mine. However, they also have the right to all the information. Just because something is natural does not make it harmless. Proceed cautiously; keep an open mind to the possible benefits and pitfalls.

The emotions of Starting a special diet

Starting one of the speciality diets associated with autism or any other medical condition or disability may have its benefits, but it will also have some risks. As a parent I always wanted to try diet solutions first. I was so confused at times. The educational "experts" would tell me, "there's no harm in it just try it", but then I'd talk to the medical "experts" who responded, "are you crazy? Do you know how dangerous that can be?" In the presence of the educational experts I felt I hadn't done everything possible for my child if I hadn't tried the diet or supplement they were recommending, but in the presence of the medical experts I felt I had placed my child in risk of great harm by placing them on a diet. I must say it was very confusing.

In our case, I had the oldest tested for food allergies. This seemed to satisfy both sides of the fence. He turned out to be allergic to many things, but the big food item was corn. Before the internet it was not an easy task to figure out how to eliminate corn from his diet. The allergist simply said remove corn, but not all corn is listed as "corn" on the label. My pediatrician I was taking him to at the moment replied pretty bluntly, "oh, you're going to be one of those mothers". His implication was that food allergies weren't really real, but in the heads of their crazy mothers.

It was an amazing transformation! He suddenly could focus long enough to do things he had never been able to do before. It was also very obvious when someone inadvertently fed him something he wasn't supposed to have. I had everyone trained to read the labels and look for corn syrup since this was everywhere and seemed to have the greatest effect on him, so frequently someone would excitedly come bouncing up to me and say, I found something he can have with the other kids that doesn't have corn syrup! When I'd ask what is was usually the answer was popcorn. As my heart sank, I'd go to pick up my child who was totally out of control. I'd try very calmly to get the person to say the name of the food they had just fed my child and ask them what the last half of the word was. Actually, they probably did us a favor. While there were many naysayers they usually became believers when someone fed him popcorn. It was a reaction that was hard to deny.

When I went to school I learned the difference between peer reviewed research and anecdoctal evidence. Now I do understand the skeptisium of my colleages; however, I also understand the desperation of parents who just want to help their children. It's taken me a few years to find where I want the balance to be on this issue in my life, but here it is. I want the parents to determine if these diets work for their child or not. I also want the child to be placed under as little risks as possible, so if a parent asks me to help them with any of the autism diets (or diets to help other disabilities or medical conditions) I give them a list of risks I want them to be careful about. When you remove foods that are a major contribution to the American diet the nutrients associated with those foods are also removed, so the most important risks is nutritional health. Second, the replacement foods can be extremely expensive if you are replacing the foods with a lot of prepackaged foods. Our family lived on the verge of bankruptcy for many years. I do NOT want that for the families I am working with, so I encourage homemade foods and lots of single ingredient foods. (There is no gluten or casein in that carrot.) The last caution is a little different. When you go on special diets those people around you in your community (family, friends, neighbors, church, school personell, etc.) are not sure how to handle this, so many times they just move out of your life quietly. This connection with others is called social capital. It is extremely important to protect your family's social capital, however, lifes challenges tend to erode this capital.

To summarize, if a person comes to me and wants to start a vegetarian diet I do not find ways to convince them not to start the diet. I try to assist the person in starting this diet in a healthy way. Many of the autism diets can be done safely. It's my job to help the family incorporate the diet in their lives in such a way that is healthy for the child and their family.

Dietitians needed in home health care

Locally, there has been a very sad event the last week. A child, who had a great amount of medical needs was found dead at a pond. See his story here: Wylie's Angel. This child was so small it was believed he was only about 3 years of age, but he was really about 6 years old. Although the details have not come out yet one thing is obvious, this child was severely undernourished. As a Dietitian for an Early Intervention program, I see many undernourished children as part of my job. There are many reasons a child might be undernourished most due to health problems not neglect. These children are eligible for nutrition services through Early Intervention programs until the age of 3. After they graduate from these services, all other services (physical therapy, occupational therapy, and speech therapy) are all addressed by the school systems. However, nutrition is rarely included in the IEP (Inddividual Education Plan). To make it more difficult children can also receive PT, OT, and ST through home health agencies in addition to what they receive in school through a home health agency. Nutrition, however, cannot be billed by a home health agency (at least here in the state of Texas).

While I'm in no way excusing the caregiver of this child for their part in not providing him adequate care, I do believe that it is important that Dietitians be added to home health care. Hopefully, this would make nutrition services more accessible for these special needs children. While many pediatric specialists offices do have Dietitians in their offices I believe it is important to monitor these children much more frequently than can be done during a once or twice a year visit to the specialist. Home health agencies could accomplish this.

Parents need encouragement

As I considered possible themes for the blog this weekend, the possibilities were mainly trending towards a diet specific themes this week until I went to church this morning. Our pastor hit the nail on the head! Before I get into specific diet topics I want to take a moment and encourage the parents of individuals with autism or any other disability for that matter. As both a professional and a parent I have found that when "the experts" give you a diagnosis for your child they generally try to describe how that diagnosis is going to affect the child by giving a list (sometimes a very long list) of things this child will not be able to do.

I find the can't/won't do list to be very annoying. Let's make something clear. Whether you are talking to a doctor, a teacher, or what every kind of professional is working with your child they DO NOT have a crystal ball hiding in their office they are consulting that will tell them exactly what your child will or will not be able to do. I've heard the argument, we (the professionals) should not give the family false hope, so let me just ask a question. If those same professionals were to receive the same diagnosis wouldn't it make the process of raising and caring for that individual much more pleasant for all concerned if the family was more concentrated on working on possible positive goals rather than shooting down those goals before they even get started on it?

My feeling has been whatever goal the individual or the parents is willing to pursue should be encouraged. Maybe the final goal is not realistic, but if it's an interest it is possible for the individual or family to make progress towards that goal, so maybe the true goal is to get that individual as close to their goal as they possibly can. Even if they fall short following their dreams have given something positive for everyone to work towards, so take a moment and encourage a family affected by autism or any other disability.

Reflecting on the MMR vaccine controversy

One of the questions I'm asked most often is either, "should I vaccinate my child?" or "do you think I caused my child's autism when I vaccinated him/her for MMR?" For the most part I've tried to withhold judgement until I felt I had enough information. Since the GMC has rendered a decision I feel I can now form an educated opinion.

The GMC rendered an opinion on how Dr Wakefield's research was conducted. Their opinion was not whether there is a link with MMR vaccines and autism only whether the research of Dr. Wakefield and his colleagues was conducted following the proper procedures required of all scientific research. The document detailing their decision can be found here: GMC document. As I read through this document, I was surprised at how many issues there were with his research. There are many things that were done for which there was no approval to conduct that research or there was a conflict of interest due to being involved with an MMR legal case. I encourage you to read for yourself and determine if you are comfortable his research after you read this. I, personally, am not.

Dr Wakefield has issued a statement through the Age of Autism online newsletter. His statement can be found here: Age of Autism Statement. In his statement he states, "Our only “crime” in this matter has been to listen to the concerns of parents, act according to the demands of our professional training, and provide appropriate care to this neglected population of children."

As I read both the GMC findings and the statement from Dr Wakefield, I remember back when we were first looking for autism treatments for our two boys. The first time someone said to me, We can't wait for research to be done that would be too late for your boys, I was taken aback. Did they mean what they were recommending was not researched and if that's what they meant then how did I get in the studies that were surely going on? Or were they just after my money? At some point, I realized there wasn't any research going on and further more the autism experts had no plans of starting any research. Of course, at some point I also came to understand a very very large part of the reason they weren't starting research was because there was no funding for research. I can tell you I felt pretty hopeless. How were we, as parents, ever going to afford these treatments? Surely, insurance would never pay for anything that wasn't researched through the proper scientific channels.

While I've discovered that in some states some insurance is paying for treatments even those that don't have double blind placebo studies to back them up. I have to wonder, If twenty years ago the autism experts that dealt with my children had insisted on doing research that followed all the rules and proved that some of those treatments worked then wouldn't parents today have a much less of a cost burden and might we be further in our quest to find answers as to what causes this? Granted some of the treatments that people told me I absolutely must do for my children if I loved and cared for them are now gone. I more than others understand the urgency of treating these children now and not wanting to wait until research is done. I also understand that research can be our ally not our foe if it's done correctly.

To digress further on the shot issue, I don't necessarily think the current schedule for shots is right for everyone. I have and still do encourage parents to take the vaccination schedule at a pace they are comfortable and at a pace they have agreed with their physican is appropriate. I have found it interesting when listening to Defeat Autism Now! sessions and even Dr Wakefield's interviews I've never heard one of them say, Don't vaccinate your child. I feel parents should have some frank open discussions with the pediatricians about when to vaccinate.

How does Autism affect a family?

I think the answer to that question has changed over time. I have a great Uncle that although he was never diagnosed we wonder if he fit the criteria for autism, but Uncle Sissy lived during an era when there was no autism diagnosis, at least it was a rare diagnosis. Uncle Sissy, according to what my relatives tells me, was doing just fine when he fell off that bed at 18 months old then he quit talking. They called him Uncle Sissy because he allowed the girls to paint his fingernails. I don't remember his real name. From what I understand he enjoyed having his fingernails painted. At some point, in his life he was placed in a nursing home where he lived the rest of his life. I wish I knew more to tell you about him, but that's about it. I do find it interesting that he lost speech about 18 months old then later he enjoyed things other males would have found socially inappropriate. Did he have autism? Well, we'll never know, but I do find it a little more than coincidental. So I guess for his generation autism might mean living out your life in a facility of some kind.

Three generations later when boys were born I was told the diagnosis meant they would never have girl friends, never live independently, never have good relationships, but the thing that stuck in my mind was they said my oldest would never hold a pencil much less write or draw. The immediate impact on our lives was not something that was even addressed when they were diagnosed. There seemed to be a long list of things that educational professionals told us later, if you don't do then you will causing irreparable harm to your child. I felt what they were really saying was, you aren't competent to raise these boys. You need to let us take over and make the decisions.

As they went through school their diagnosis meant if they were going to be allowed to participate in extracurricular activities we, their parents, needed to participate with them. Of course, this is probably the one thing about their autism we enjoyed most. We loved being involved with our boys and probably would have been involved in everything they were part of even without the diagnosis, but now it was a necessity. It became necessary or at least desirable for me to educate myself about every little aspect of how to teach children then in order to get those techniches implemented it became necessary for me to be educated to be an advocate, which I did not only for my boys but for other children at other school districts.

At some point, we decided that it was more time effective and less stressful to educate the boys at home. All that parent training that was meant to teach me how to better assist the teachers teach my children was very useful in homeschooling. You see, since there was only two children at their school who had autism there wasn't an autism expert at the school, so I went to the same trainings the teacher attended only the teachers changed every year or two. At least when I was teaching them they had a teacher that had been taught something about autism.

It was suggested the oldest be tested for allergies since he had the worst allergic shiners (dark circles under his eyes) you ever saw. As it turns out he tested allergic to life. Most all the environmental allergies and many of the food allergies had a reaction. Through removing and reintroducing we decided that the only food allergy that seemed to affect him was corn, but corn seemed to be in everything. It also seemed to be extremely hard for others to understand. We eventually tried to simplify things and just encouraged everyone to read the labels and look for corn syrup since this seemed to be the biggest offender. Whenver he was fed anything with corn he seemed to have more asthma and his behavior was nothing short of wild at times. If nothing else he seemed to retreat farther and farther into the world of dinosaurs.

So in the short term autism as a diagnosis meant we had to become experts on subjects we never anticipated neeeded to know about then try some techniques that seemed really bizarre. The thing that surprised me the most was that the educational "experts" would encourage us to try things that our pediatricians seemed to think was absolutely ludicrous. I couldn't understand how I was supposed to handle this. What was I supposed to do when the professionals seemed to think the other professionals were crazy!

In the longer term, we haven't done too bad. Remember how the oldest was never going to hold a pencil, well, how did that same young man end up studying animation at the Art Institute? Hmmmm.... It seems nobody has a crystal ball. The boys have far exceeded expectations of most everyone. So as far as how the autism diagnosis affects a family, well, there are some things that are consistent from family to family but for the most part I feel the overall affect is as individual as the family. And the adventure continues.....

An Introduction

I'd like to start off this blog with an introduction. My husband and I are the parents to three amazing boys who are 26, 25, and 19. Two of these boys have autism. Most of their lives I've been "just mom". I didn't become an RD until 5 years ago. So it's probably fair to say that most of my opinions are probably more influenced by my parental experience than my professional experience. However, my professional training and experience definitely have had an influence.

The two boys who have autism are doing great today. The oldest is working his way through an animation degree at Dallas Art Institute. He's gone from being classified as fairly severely autistic to college. Wow, it's been quite a journey. The middle child takes care of so many people. One of his favorite things in laundry. He does our family laundry, his grandmother's laundry, he works for a bed and breakfast doing laundry, and he folds towels for the guy down the street who cuts hair. In addition, he does more house cleaning around here than anyone else. More about both of them later.

I went back t0 school to become a Dietitian when I put the boys back in public school after 4 years of homeschooling. I attended Texas Woman's University where I obtained a B.S of Dietetics and Institution and Administration then a M.S. in Nutrition. I also did my internship there. While I was still a student I had the wonderful opportunity to become the web coordinator for Dietetics in Developmental and Psychiatric Disorders (now Behavioral Health Nutrition), a dietary practice group of American Dietetic Association. Upon completion of my Master's I was hired at Early Childhood Intervention (ECI) of Tarrant and Parker County (now ECI of North Central Texas), where I still work today. I also have a private practice (Kids In need of Dietary Services, LLC affectionally referred to as KIDS).

All of this has meshed together to give me some very interesting and sometimes different perspectives. As a parent, I learned so much from the wonderful teachers and staff of Lake Worth School District, but it was far from smooth sailing. In fact, more than one person there has referred to me as the mother from Hell. I also became a PATH trained advocate. From PATH I learned a lot about the laws and the current best practices with autism.

Through the course of this blog I will endevour to share some of my unique perspective with all of you. It's my hope that I can give those who read this some insights into this disability and the challenges it brings. It's also my hope that I will be able pass along some nutritional information for those that are either considering using some of the diet interventions for autism or working with those who are using or considering dietary interventions.